My name is a leash. I do not aspire to be a dog. (BMcC)
So, there you have it, my reader: The label that was affixed to me (BMcC[18-11-46-503]) at birth means: A broad shallow place to cross a river (or: a shallow place to cross a broad river). I was born to be a place upon which you may choose to tread, in going forth in your life (or, if you must retreat, like the tattered remnants of the German army at Stalingrad, in WWII... 卐), selecting to walk upon me because less of your body will get wet in the river of time and life that way, than if you took a different path. A bathmat. Why not a toilet? They certainly [trick or...] treated me like one.
Did my birth parents or the presumptive physician (doctor, really, i.e.: teacher?) who delivered (←telling word there! Postage due?) me and circumcised (was this out of religious belief, or just a nasty habit so that I "would not look different"?) the vulnerable infant I was at the time, know this? In my parents' case, of course not. My parents did not know much of anything, due to their societal provenance or, rather, lack of same. The physician? He may only have had advanced job skill training, not also humanistic education, which deficiency Carl Jung says was the root cause of Sigmund Freud's dogmatism.
To conclude: I have two signatures which I have created and made myself, or commissioned, but which presumably are not legally useful for a citizen of the United States of America who is not a sublunary star. I have also acquired permission from the publisher to use the old Martinus Nijhoff (The Hague) printer's mark, which they no longer use. (Anent: "Invenit et fecit", see: here.)
One signature means: cat; some people(sic) admonish me people think I am either psychotic or mentally defective when I: "Meow!" to persons, but it does not modify their ideation on this matter that I have cultivated a "red neck" neighbor with 3 cats, who likes it. Meow!
The other signature references knotted letters in classical Japan. (The non-Sophoclean Chorus of American post (POTUS №40) [Ronald Reagan] prideful ignorance, at this point, chants in unison: "What? Huh?"). The name on my credit cards reads: "B MCCORMICK". I sign checks with a scribble. I reference my self here in A place to/for Study with the character string: "BMcC[18-11-46-503]". Q: What's in a name? A: Ascii characters. firstname.lastname@example.org
I was a "sensitive" child. Boys are supposed to grow up to "take it like a man". That may be appropriate for training young minotaurs, but it was not right for me. My "sensitivities" could have been a treasure for myself and also for all the more insensate ("emotionally challenged") adults around me who could have learned from my way of being in the world how to improve themselves and become more honorifically human[e]. I should have been encouraged to become even more "sensitive".
I was "sensitive" to my maternal biological progenitor intruding on me and impinging on me. The woman did not respect the boundaries and protect the integrity of my fragile little soul. I should have been encouraged to become even more sensitive to being intruded upon by any and all persons, including that mother bitch, and irrespective of whether she was responsible for her behavior or not. If The Invisible Hand did it to her and she was just mindlessly passing it on down to me, it was still wrong and it needed to be stopped. I should have been assured that I would not suffer any harm, retribution or even inconvenience (such as them trying to make me feel sorry/guilty for my reaction to my mother's behavior maybe making her feel bad). I could have used help from a fiduciary empathic educated adult to formulate this, since I was just a toddler:
You are hurting me. Stop it immediately and never do anything like that again. Do you understand? If not, I will have to keep telling you to stop what you need to stop doing to cease hurting me, until you figure out what it is you need to stop doing. Clue: It's just about everything you do.
If you will show me respect, then let's try to figure out how we can have joy in our lives. We are stuck here, together. You have innate artistic ability. Let's see if we can have some joy in living before we can't any more because of debilitating pain. A person never knows how much time they have left to enjoy their mind and their body, do they? You already cut off part of my penis, and that is not undoable, right? And do not call me "Bradford"! I am not a thing with a label on it. You may address me as: "Sir", and I will address you as: "Madam". If we reciprocally earn it, maybe we will come to call one another by creative endearments, but you have not earned that yet. Another clue: My pet cat has earned it.
Now, woman, do you have any questions that I may help you understand your problem? No? Then go think about it, and come back when you have shaped up, and then we'll try this again.
I (BMcC[18-11-46-503]) am not the person my parents and perp school dealt with. They dealt with the objectified behavioral constellation: "BRADFORD", not a dialectically living soul with an inside that needed protection from intrusions and attempted manipulation (which is what they were doing to "BRADFORD"). I was not the computer programmer that was a wage-slave who got jerked around by a thick-headed manager with a Ph.D. in computer science from NYU for not jumping through hoops of obtuse computer code.
There is a cartoon, which for all I know may be true. There is a now adult woman, named "Debbie", who, as a toddler was the cutest little poster baby for her father's donut business: Debbie's Donuts. No harm done, I guess. But now, as an adult, Debbie exclaims: "First of all, I'm Debbie the person!" She wants to be herslf not for having filled the role of cute phhotogenic toddler for Debbie's Donuts.
First of all, I'm me! Consequently, it makes sense to refer to Bradford in the third person when talking about the actor that hads always had to play that role in my daily living. He really got shafted and I was bereft with almost nothing since all available energy was being used up by Bradford keeping up his life saving act because I did not merit living and Bradford had to try to protect me from the persons I had cooked him up to protect me from them using up my energy.... Heads I lost; tails I lost. It's a flip of the coin.